{"id":846,"date":"2010-07-14T07:00:47","date_gmt":"2010-07-14T11:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/?p=846"},"modified":"2014-09-26T20:21:57","modified_gmt":"2014-09-27T00:21:57","slug":"extra-judging-a-manicure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/extra-judging-a-manicure\/","title":{"rendered":"Extra: Judging a Manicure"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>First you should know that by temperament and choice I am very frugal. (My kids have a less flattering word for it.) Next you should know that I got my first manicure about several months ago (at age 62) when my daughter \u201ctreated\u201d me to it during our mother\/daughter rendezvous in Egypt. I have never considered painted fingernails to be especially attractive, practical, or natural (although I know many fine people, including my mother, who regularly get manicures.)<\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s this got to do with giving stuff away? Well, we\u2019ve been helping a homeless family pick up some odd jobs since they had absolutely no income \u2013 only food stamps and limited medical care. Then I noticed that the 19 year-old mother had gotten a manicure. She was proud of it. I was aghast. I didn\u2019t say anything \u2013 until I could privately tell my husband. He challenged me on being judgmental. Knowing the more practical needs and debts that I had hoped they\u2019d spend this odd job cash on, it was hard for me to see them spend it on what I considered an unnecessary luxury. My compassionate side said, \u201cHey, if you\u2019d had no spending money for months and finally got a little cash through your own hard work, blowing some of it on a luxury is like a mental health break and understandable.\u201d Then my mother side kicked in and said, \u201cShe should have put it toward their debt or saved it to buy a cell phone which would help us keep in touch.\u201d My social worker side said, \u201cI should have anticipated this and worked with the family more directly to make a plan for how to use this new found bounty.\u201d I often judge people for being judgmental of others. It\u2019s a hard demon to tame. What bothers you most about other people? What do you do with the judgments you make?<\/p>\n

Important PS<\/strong>: I just learned that the manicure was FREE! Apparently the church she was staying in last week, had a professional manicurist offer her services free to the guests. That’ll teach me!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

First you should know that by temperament and choice I am very frugal. (My kids have a less flattering word for it.) Next you should know that I got my first manicure about several months ago (at age 62) when my daughter \u201ctreated\u201d me to it during our mother\/daughter rendezvous in Egypt. I have never […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[39],"tags":[17],"class_list":["post-846","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-beyond-stuff","tag-musings"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/846","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=846"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/846\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1710,"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/846\/revisions\/1710"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=846"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=846"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.susanvogt.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=846"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}