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Days 365+51 coat w fur

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The S’s are pretty much finished so I’ll tell you about this lovely warm (and rather expensive) fur lined coat that I decided to give away. I actually gave it away last February because I wanted someone to be able to use it while it was still cold out. I decided not to post it then, however, because it didn’t begin with “S” and would interrupt my Waste-Less Lent posts. (I know, I know, I can be rather OCD about these kinds of things.)

The story behind the coat is that it was handed down to me by a relative many years ago. It wasn’t particularly my style but it was of such high quality that I kept it. When I finally decided to let it go, I toyed with the idea of giving it to an upscale consignment shop. I might get a little money for it and it would probably be bought by a person who would appreciate its value.

I then realized how judgmental that attitude was and recognized that the person who would most appreciate it was someone who was cold. I decided to take it to a friend who works at Mercy Neighborhood Ministries and asked her to pass it on to a client who needed it. Low income people need nice things too.

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You’ll seldom find me wearing a sheet but I decided to make a departure from giving away clothes and jump to sheets because I store them close to my clothes closet – and most importantly, they begin with “S.” (I love consistency. :-?) Besides, my linen closet was pretty stuffed with sheets.

On occasion, we’ve slept 14 people in our house, but some brought their own bedding. Currently we have:

  • 5 “proper” beds
  • 3 floor mattresses that could make comfortable enough beds
  • 2 couches that could serve for sleeping in a pinch

Even after allowing for two sets of sheets for each proper bed and mattress, I determined that I had 16 extra sheets and 10 extra pillow cases than I needed. This is a give-away that I can feel good about since bedding is a common need for low income people.

Disclaimer: As terrible as it may sound to have accumulated 17 extra sheets, remember my rant last year about manufacturers changing the depth of mattresses in order to not only sell more mattresses but also sell more sheets to fit the new size. Well, several alert and generous readers gave me their older sheets that would fit my older (but still good and “right sized for sitting) mattress. This is how I got some of my surplus sheets. So there!

Days 365+49 2 more skirtsWith my days of measuring garbage behind me, I can finally get back to the S’s. I found one more skirt that I missed several weeks ago and am totally willing to give it away now. It did look rather lonely, however, and produced only a rather drab photo to simply give away one powder blue skirt. I decided to scout my closet for a companion since I still had 17 skirts. (Oh dear, even mentioning that many in my blog feels like a guilty confession.) It was hard. Most of the skirts I wear at least several times a year. I did find one skirt that I like and fits, but I probably haven’t worn in 10 years. This brought on even more guilt. I decided to let it go. I may wear it one more time just as a way to say goodbye.

Now that I’m on my second round of give-aways, noting what I didn’t give away the first time (and reading about people who prune their wardrobe to 33 items – not counting underwear), I realize that I still have room for improvement. It’s humbling to think that I had 17 skirts and probably only wear about 10 often. Still, I am reluctant to give  all the surplus away at once. Sometimes I think we have to do this in stages but keep moving in the right direction of keeping less. I keep reminding myself that there are people in my community who need decent work wardrobes now and don’t have the luxury of 17 skirts to choose from. Working at home should keep my career clothes wardrobe at a minimum, but it’s harder than I expected to let go.

Our daughter, who is about to move to her third foreign country in six years, has an advantage. Each time she moves she is faced with the decision about which clothes she loves enough to take them to the new country. Of course we still have some of her clothes stored in a closet at our home. 😕

How many skirts or slacks do you think a conscientious down-sizer should have? How many do you have?

Days 365+48h Easter wasteRejoice! Easter is here and I no longer have to measure trash. Of course Easter is first and foremost about the resurrection of Jesus and the hope that gives the world. I don’t want to in any way trivialize this holiest of days. Still, my practical Lenten sacrifice side reminds me that I no longer have to sort through my garbage and separate the recyclables from the trash. I will continue to recycle and compost, but digging through this stuff and composing it for a photo has been a pain. Following are some things I’ve learned:

  1. The impact – Even though I was able to reduce the amount of garbage I produced during Lent, this was miniscule in terms of making an appreciable dent in reducing the overall human contribution to landfills.
  2. Consciousness Raising – Probably the most important value of this experience was the increased awareness I now have for how I buy and dispose of material goods. I learned a lot more about what is recyclable, compostable, and terracyclable thus increasing the likelihood that I will use this knowledge in the future. I also am looking at the things I buy more carefully. Is it something I really need? How long will it last? How is it packaged? This is changing how much I buy and what it is packaged in.
  3. Habit Forming – Recycling can be enhanced by setting up a system and developing a habit. Once I had made a container for my terracycling stuff, it became easy just to put the appropriate stuff in it. Once I learned some finer points of how much in my ordinary garbage was recyclable and what was compostable, I got in the habit of putting it in the assigned place. Once I got in the habit of taking a small bag with me on walks, it became a habit to pick up bottles and cans. In fact, when away from home I started noticing plastic bottles in other neighborhoods and felt a pang of guilt that I wasn’t in a position to pick them up.
  4. Recycling Etiquette – It was hard for me not to rescue recyclables from under neighbors’ bushes or to refrain from commenting on others’ lack of recycling when visiting. With my increased awareness, it became an etiquette dilemma. Does one overlook the fact that another household does not recycle something that I know could easily be done? Does that violate good manners and become over-responsible? Or is it proper to “educate” another about what they could recycle or buy differently – like suggesting that someone not buy bottled water.
  5. Days 365+48h Easter waste w footA Game or Game Changing? – I admit that in many ways these six weeks of reducing my waste was like a game for me. It was a challenge to see how low I could go. I also admit that I bordered on cheating a few times like when I turned a blind eye to a Styrofoam cup on my neighbor’s lawn because it would have increased the level of my garbage that week. I also let my husband buy me a dress I coveted. It came with no packaging but did I absolutely need it? No. My compulsive side sometimes went to extremes to avoid adding 1/8th of an inch to my trash level. Does stomping down the trash to make it look like less really change how much I threw away? Indeed, it was part game, but it was also game changing in that it changed me. I became more informed and now see recycling opportunities where I didn’t before. I’m more careful about what I buy and what it’s packaged in.
  6. Any Spiritual Growth? One of the tenets of Catholic Social teaching is Care for God’s Creation, and certainly I grew in implementing that. However, I think the more important spiritual growth that took place in me over these six weeks is what I have come to call the “Smug Factor.” I’ve long known that I should tame my pride. Not the good kind of pride that urges me to do my best work, but the vice kind of pride that prompts me to want to appear better than others. Facing my temptations to cheat – even in an artificial contest with myself – punctured my pride. Digging through garbage taught me respect for those who do this to survive. Letting go of the goal of perfect recycling and no waste was humbling. Trying not to judge others when their lifestyle decisions differed from mine was an important lesson.
5 weeks in can 6th week in clear jar

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Wait, wait, let me explain. I know it looks like I’m really back sliding this week but here’s the back story. We had 12 guests stay with us over the weekend for the Pig Town Fling contradance. Actually our friends are very conscientious about the environment and make very little waste. But 12 extra people making very little waste still adds up. As you can see, I couldn’t fit it all in my see through jar. The big culprit was that one person had gone out for dinner and brought home his leftovers in a styrofoam “doggie container.” I’m sure he didn’t have much choice other than to waste the food. That’s what took up most of the space. Extra cans, beer bottles, oyster tins, and other paraphernalia were mostly recyclable or compostable. Several people brought their own bedding. All brought snacks. It was an easy group to host.

Stuff-nothingMy goal this week was to focus on pre-cycling. The problem is that NOT buying stuff doesn’t make for a very interesting photo. Just so you know, we bought some food for our guests but I didn’t buy convenience foods. Conveniently, I have a husband who doesn’t mind cooking from scratch. I got my sewing machine fixed which will help me mend some clothes and avoid buying more. I didn’t buy those Papas Easter eggs (but I might go back and get a couple of my favorites later :-?) I didn’t buy some fancy paper that I had considered getting.

Progress? (Week 5 is in the jar)

Progress?
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As I mentioned in Week #1, much of what a person can put out for curbside recycling varies from town to town. We found that our city (Covington, KY) takes all plastics labeled #1 – #7. Cincinnati, OH (15 minutes away) does not take #5 and #7. BUT, they do have a school that does terracycling.

So, what is terracycling? No it isn’t a new form of bicycling but rather a an opportunity to recycle materials that often are not acceptable in traditional city recycling programs. TerraCycle is a private U.S. small business headquartered in Trenton, NJ. It specializes in making consumer products from pre- and post-consumer materials, which is often called upcycling, or reusing waste materials that are otherwise difficult to recycle.

TerraCycle arranges with local schools and non-profits to collect items like candy wrappers, snack bags, cereal box liners, wax paper, pens, markers, glue bottles, and toiletries like tooth paste, deodorant, and beauty products. In exchange, the school receives money from TerraCycle, It’s both a benefit to the environment and the school.

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In the Cincinnati area there are several non-profit organizations that offer TerraCycling. One that offers a broad spectrum of recyclable items is Pleasant Ridge Montessori, Click here to see a full description with photos of what can be dropped off.

So… what that means for me is that my Cincinnati friends and I trade garbage. They bring me their #5 & #7 plastics and I take items that can be terracycled to them. Pictured here are the terracycle items that I’ve collected since the beginning of Lent: (reading from left to right and top to bottom) snack bags, snack wrappers, candy wrappers, wax box liners, usable shoes, pens, zip lock bags, and toiletries. This hasn’t made a big dent in my garbage level (except for the shoes) but it has made me feel better about not wasting these items by adding them to a landfill. (Note the liturgically correct purple background. 🙂

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Bottled water is my nemesis. I avoid it unless I’m in a 3rd world country or camping without access to clean water. Thus I was discouraged to attend a recent non-profit dinner that only had bottled water. I decided to put water from the water fountain in the Styrofoam cup meant for coffee. I then complained to the person sitting next to me about the bottled water. My friend gently pointed out that Styrofoam is not recyclable at all while the plastic bottles were. She was right and I felt duly humbled but not satisfied.

I decided to talk with one of the organizers and offer to bring several pitchers for water the next week and fill them up at the site. As a bonus I brought recyclable cups. The effort this took was minimal since I already had the supplies at home. Mostly I had to remember to do it and put a towel around the pitchers so they wouldn’t break. SUCCESS! I then took the plastic cups home and washed them in the dishwasher. It’s a small thing and won’t make a big dent in global warming, but I hope that the consciousness raising will multiply my efforts. Now I just have to work on not being too proud or self-congratulatory. So, remember the lesson, but forget that it started with me. 😕

Ho Hum: The rest of the week was pretty boring as far as creating waste. I think we created a little less waste at home by looking at my red capped jar, but maybe I’m just getting better at arranging my waste. As I did the dirty, messy work of checking through our garbage to make sure Jim had not put anything in that could really be recycled or terracycled, I thought of you all. I thought of how I’m picking through garbage and measuring it so you don’t have to. If I wasn’t blogging on this and taking photos I would just put it in the outside trash can and forget about it. The result would be the same. Bottom line, this is mostly about raising my awareness and learning recycling habits for the future. So, learn from my experience.Days 365+48e Week 5 waste

Who is winning? As I look around our neighborhood and remember our days of active parenting my pride in reducing our waste is balanced by realizing that there’s only two of us. It would be a lot harder if we still had children at home. I did, however, notice that someone in our household had put several pieces of facial tissue in the garbage. It squishes down pretty small but still…I’ve switched to a handkerchief!

Days 365+48d Jim w chair padOh oh. I got worried this week when Jim replaced his 3’x4’ chair mat. The old one had a hole in it and would never fit into my 1’x4” red capped container. After a bit of research I found that the chair pad was 100% vinyl PVC recycling number 3 and the manufacturer said it was recyclable. To verify this I called my city’s recycling manager who confirmed that it could be put out with our curbside recycling. That’s a relief. I know that this Waste-Less Lent is an artificial project, but I’m really aiming to keep my weekly trash small enough so that it can fit in my red cap container.

Lesson: One of the things I’m learning is that wasting less can take a fair amount of research and that takes time. Most of my research has started online but I usually find that I get the clearest and quickest answer when I can call a company on the phone. Of course finding a phone number for a national company from their website can take longer than the call. I guess this is one of the reasons that doing a project like this for a period of time like the six weeks of Lent makes sense. I probably wouldn’t go to the trouble to do the research on a regular basis, but knowing it’s for a time-limited stretch gives me the motivation. Since the recycling research only has to be done once for the household items that I’m uncertain about means that after Lent I will have built up a pool of information that I can continue to use.Days 365=8d Week 4 waste

The white waste bucket photo continues to grow. 2 week’s worth are in the white can while Week 3’s garbage is in the red capped container. Looks like I’m not going to fit all 6 weeks of garbage in my white waste basket. Maybe, I’ll have to stomp it down. 🙂  (The ruler and Jim’s hand are for perspective.)

Days 365+48c Week 3 wastePerhaps it is wishful thinking but I do believe that we created less waste this second week of Lent than we did the first week. This may be due to us learning more about what we can recycle, the fact that Jim was away for 3 days, or maybe we’re just wasting less. My photo marks the level of unrecyclable garbage from Week 1. The clear jar with the red lid shows what I collected during Week 2. It may look the same but I didn’t have to squish the garbage down this week to put the lid on. (The red ruler is there to give perspective.)

Several ways that trying to Waste-Less impacted my life this week were:

  1. Pizza: I knew that a pizza box could be recycled with paper as long as it didn’t have food residue on it. While Jim was away, my son and I went out for pizza one night. There was one piece of pizza left so I asked for a box. I carefully put the slice on the wax paper liner in the box and cautiously drove home so as not to jostle it. SUCCESS. I got home and nary a smudge was on the box so I put it in recycling guilt free. The more I’m becoming conscious of pre-cycling, however, it occurred to me that I wouldn’t even have needed the box if I had just consumed the last piece at the restaurant. Oh dear, I think I’m over-thinking this stuff.
  2. Days 365+48c BoraxDryer sheets: Today was laundry day. I was about to toss a fabric softener sheet into the dryer with the first load when I remembered they are not recyclable, terracyclable, or compostable. The sheets are so thin I knew that it wouldn’t raise the level of my garbage container, but I decided this was an opportunity for research. I googled alternatives and found out about Borax, white vinegar, magic balls, and tennis balls. I decided to do an experiment.
  • Load #1 was my control: I used no fabric softener in the washer or dryer. Result: worked just fine for cotton underwear. No static and clothes were soft.
  • Load #2: I added ½ cup Borax to the rinse cycle. (This was because I didn’t find this trick till the washer was just starting the rinse cycle. Result: worked fine on my colored wash (mostly cotton) but some synthetic socks had a lot of static and Jim’s 100% cotton slacks would need ironing if I were picky. (The Borax did get a stubborn stain out that my detergent wouldn’t touch.)
  • Load #3: I put the ½ cup Borax in the beginning of the wash with my detergent. This was a permanent press load of delicate synthetics. Result: lots of static cling – I presume because of the different fabric.
  • Load #4: I used no Borax but put two tennis balls in the dryer. (This is supposed to help soften the clothes and prevent static cling. Result: the balls made some noise and may have reduced the wrinkles on the cotton slacks slightly but not quite enough. (Jim said that even with the dryer sheets he has to iron these slacks.)
  • Conclusion: I can probably just skip the dryer sheets except when doing a load having a lot of synthetic fabrics. PS: When washing sheets I hang them outside on the line to dry. So there –  you purists who were about to criticize me for using the dryer at all!
  1. Facial tissue: I learned that technically used facial tissue is compostable but you might want to consider what gunk you used it to clean and whether you want that in your compost. I’m going to start carrying a handkerchief. Clean facial tissue is recyclable, but if it’s clean why are you not using it?

Although Jim usually does the grocery shopping we both went this time to make joint decisions and so I could take some photos.

10 NEW THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT PACKAGING & GROCERIES

  1. Girl Scout Cookies: Upon entering the store we were met by several Girl Scout cookie sellers. The packaging around the cookies couldn’t be avoided but it seemed almost immoral not to support the Girl Scouts. We took one for the team.
  2. Lettuce: Jim, a super-conscientious consumer, thought ahead and brought some of our used plastic bread bags to put the head lettuce in. You gotta love this guy. SUCCESS
  3. Days 365+48b Jim w carrotsCarrots: He started to buy the bagged carrots because he said they’re usually cheaper than the loose ones. Upon closer examination, however, we discovered that this time they were the same price so we put the carrots in another plastic bag from home. SUCCESS
  4. Apples and other loose fruit: We bought some individual apples and bananas despite knowing that those tiny oval labels on them are not recyclable. They’re so small, I’m not worrying about it. (I’m trying not to be OCD about this.) We made an exception for a bunch of apples bagged in plastic netting. It’s not recyclable but since we make our own applesauce I figure this balanced out the jars or cans we might have bought. MIXED
  5. Days 365+48b bottled water aisleApple slices & Water. FYI they sell apples already sliced in small plastic bags. I was horrified. Are people so lazy that they can’t even bite their own apple or slice it themselves? In this same vein, I’ve long had a crusade against unncessary bottled water. This aisle of bottled water just made me sad. We didn’t buy apple slices or water but just gawked. DISTRESS
  6. Orange Juice: We drink a lot of OJ – usually the concentrate packaged in cardboard cans. We recycle the lids and plastic tear off strip. After a call to Minute Maid this morning, however, I found that the coated cardboard container is not recyclable. I was tempted to switch to the plastic jugs because I could recycle them but decided that the petroleum used to make the jugs plus the extra weight to transport them probably outweighed the tradeoff. MIXED
  7. Days 365+48b mushroomsMushrooms: We found two packages of mushrooms for the same price. One was packaged in recyclable cardboard, the other wasn’t. I thought we should buy the recyclable one, but Jim, sharp shopper that he is, said that the mushrooms in the plastic container were clearly fresher. Complex choices. We got the fresher ones. DISAPPOINTMENT
  8. Meat: It’s pretty hard to buy fresh meat without it being packaged in Styrofoam. We bought some chicken and sausages. The purists would say if we were vegetarian we wouldn’t have to compromise on this. I’m not that pure yet. DISAPPOINTMENT
  9. Milk: We usually buy organic milk that comes in a waxed cardboard carton. After talking with our city recycling manager, I was delighted to learn that Covington accepts cartons like this. SUCCESS
  10. Home again, home again  jiggety-jig.

    Home again, home again
    jiggety-jig.

    Spices: We bought a can of pepper corns. The can be recycled but we realized that it would be cheaper and less packaging to buy spices at a health food store but that would take extra gas and time to drive there. MIXED

We bought other things too but the packaging was generally not an issue since it was basically cans or recyclable plastic. In a perfect world we would even reduce our use of recyclable containers, thus pre-cycling. We’re not perfect yet.

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Well, it’s been one week of watching my waste. The biggest challenge was grocery shopping since we need food and often the packaging can’t be avoided.  I’ll chronicle what we learned from grocery shopping tomorrow. Today, I’m focusing on measuring our garbage and learning a lot about what we can and cannot recycle/compost in my city of Covington, KY. I thought I knew a lot about this already, but the goal of keeping my garbage small motivated me to learn even more.

10 NEW THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT RECYCLING:

  1. It depends on your city or county. I found that the city of Covington has a robust recycling effort and accepts a number of things that our neighbor across the river, Cincinnati, does not. This made me happy for myself but heightened my awareness of the complexity of giving recycling advice. When searching online, I realized that recycling criteria vary from city to city, or county to county. You have to call your public works dept. to get local criteria.
  2. Terracycling: The good news for Cincinnati, however, is that it does have several “terracyle” centers which recycle things like candy wrappers, snack bags, drink pouches, squeezable fruit, glue, plastic cups, cereal bags, and more. Since we have friends in Cincinnati we now trade garbage. They bring their #5 and #7’s to us and we take our terracycle items to them when we see each other.
  3. Receipts: Most cash register receipts now use thermal paper which should not be recycled. Many recycling sources I checked, however, said that this is such a small percentage of their paper recycling that they aren’t super strict about it. It does, however, reduce the quality of the recycled paper made from it and the chemicals used to produce the paper are not friendly.
  4. Plastic credit/gift cards: Our daughter who lives in Afghanistan left a couple old library cards with us. I wondered if they were recyclable. NO, EXCEPT there is a place in Bedford, OH called Earthworks that recycles these plastic cards. Of course you want to make sure your identity has been obliterated. I used to use a credit card to break into my own locked car or open a locked door. It’s probably good that this kind of re-purposing no longer works.
  5. Lids: bottle caps (metal or plastic) are now recyclable in most places, but I wasn’t sure about jar lids. I was happy to learn that Covington accepted glass jar lids. Take them off the jar or bottle before recycling.
  6. Paper labels on cans or plastic: Even though I knew that one didn’t have to peel/scrape the paper off containers before putting them in recycling, it made me feel better to do it – the pristine look of a clear bottle or jar was appealing to me. I’d just let the bottle soak in the sink for awhile to get it off. Now that I’m compulsively measuring my waste, however, I decided to let it stay on since that’s one less piece of garbage to put in the trash can.
  7. Other Labels: Unfortunately, most of my research indicated that those sticky labels (like name tags or that are on plastic film) are not recyclable.
  8. Paper towels: I didn’t think that paper towels could be recycled but they CAN be COMPOSTED. This is good news since we have a low maintenance compost pile behind our garage. Just make sure they don’t have chemical residue on them. Mini confession: Before I knew this I had been avoiding using paper towels this Lent and instead used cloth rags to wipe up spills. This isn’t a bad idea because I have plenty of rags and I’d just include them with my regular wash so it didn’t take any extra washing. I did, however, go a little over the top when I saw a bug in the kitchen and wanted to squish it with a smidgen of paper towel but didn’t want to add it to my trash container. I thus carefully picked up the bug and threw it outside. I’m not sure it this is virtue or foolishness.
  9. Dryer sheets and lint: Dryer sheets are not recyclable but dryer lint is compostable. Aren’t you glad you know that?
  10. Is it cheating? I admit that this Lenten “Waste-Less” project of mine is partly a game. It’s like a competition with myself to see how small I can keep the level of my trash each week. Is it cheating to squish the stuff down (like in a compactor) so it looks like less? I did that.

Want more: There are many websites which give more detail about recycling. Earth 911 is a good one. When I wasn’t sure about something I simply googled “Can I recycle ______” and usually came up with quick answers. Again check with your county municipality for local requirements.

Days 365+48 waste basketsI interrupt this story of giving-away “S’s” because Lent has just started again and I have a new plan. In 2010 and 2011, I was giving things away. In 2012, I ate on $4.50/day. This Lent I’ve decided to waste less. It’s my attempt to create less trash as a way to honor God’s creation and decrease how much garbage I heap on the earth. I’ve been thinking about this for awhile and am not sure how well I will do or if it will made any difference. After all, Jim and I are just two people in a world of  7 billion (give or take a couple people). Besides, we already recycle glass, plastic, cans and a whole bunch of stuff that we give away. We take reusable cloth bags when shopping and do a simplified form of composting. We’ve even downsized our garbage can. Can we do much more? We’ll see.

My plan is twofold:

  1. Recycle more vigilantly by learning what additional things might be recycled and where to take them.
  2. Pre-cycle by trying to buy less packaging that would need to later be discarded.

Each week I will measure how much garbage I’ve created and see how low I can go.

In thinking this through I thought I’d need some rules to avoid becoming overly compulsive or stinking up the house. Therefore:

I won’t count as garbage:

  1. Anything that I will recycle (paper, plastic bags, plastic containers, glass, cans…)
  2. Anything that goes into the compost pile or down the disposal.
  3. Anything that goes down the toilet. (Although when I spent time in Southeast Asia and Africa I learned that some cultures don’t use toilet paper, I’m not going to that degree of “purity.”)

I will count:

  1.  Anything that I would normally put in the weekly garbage collection (Although I plan to save my treasured waste in see-through containers, at least for the first few weeks, so I can measure it.)

I suspect that the hardest part of this will be grocery shopping where it’s hard to avoid pre-packaged food. What will we do about milk? The organic milk we usually buy only comes in waxed cartons. Can those be recycled? I’ll have to find out. Anybody know?

Cheating: I’ve already caught myself cheating. Since I knew I was going to start on Ash Wednesday, I made sure that I put several larger non-recyclables in last Monday’s pick-up so it wouldn’t count. I’m justifying this as sort of a Mardi Gras splurge before Lent.

Scarves in back

Scarves in back

…and Smugness. Today I selected to give away:

  • 4 pairs of slacks
  • 2 sweaters
  • 8 scarves

But what I found that was hard to give away was feeling SMUG. I was feeling quite virtuous about continuing to find clothes to pass on to others when I reflected that since I work at home, I really don’t need as big a wardrobe as someone who needs to meet the public in professional attire most days. I realized that I was feeling quite smug and needed to let go of it. That’s the real challenge to my spirituality these days – trying not to feel self-righteous and smug.

 

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In keeping with my Round 1 order of “S’s” I looked through my wardrobe of shirts, skirts, and suits. I’m surprised that even though I pruned my closet over a year ago, there were still items that I hadn’t worn in years. I found:

  • 4 shirts (OK, I’d really call them blouses but that doesn’t begin with S)
  • 2 skirts
  • 2 dresses (broadly re-categorized as “suits” for alliterative purposes).

Days 365+46--black skirtSome of these choices were easy(like this basic little black skirt) since I had two of them.

A few decisions were tougher. Even though I hadn’t worn some items in over a year, they still looked nice and fit well. I decided to take Courtney Carver’s advice and keep only the items I absolutely loved. (Courtney does a blog called Be More With Less that I’ve found to be very helpful and compatible with my values.)

Days 365+46 hankie dressI still had one problem, however. There’s one more dress that’s very elegant, expensive, and rare. It’s called a “Hankie Dress.”  It looks beautiful on but it would require a really unique occasion to wear it. I asked the two men who were having a meeting downstairs while I was deliberating whether or not to give it away. They tied, which leaves me still undecided. What’s your opinion?

Lesson: So far I’m hanging on to the dress. It’s important to keep pruning but everything doesn’t have to go at once.

PS: What would be the easiest piece of clothing in your closet to let go of? What would be the hardest?

PPS: A big thanks to William Cawthron of Alpha Hosting (formerly Dixie Systems) who helped me work out the bugs in my blog. 

Our adult children were all home for Christmas. Hurrah! I hoped they would take some of the stuff I had been saving (especially for our grandchildren) back with them. A few things traveled to a new home but I again found that items that I’d been saving did not fit the taste or circumstances of the new parents. I decided to interrupt the order that I used in my first round of giveaways (shoes, shirts, skirts, suits, slacks, sweaters…) and jump to children’s winter clothes. Several snow suits and winter sweaters can be used by other children NOW. No reason to be a slave to the original order.

Unfortunately, upon closer inspection I also noticed that several of the items needed mending. Ugh. It’s hard to be a responsible giver.

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My first shoe purge in 2010 got me from 30 pairs of shoes to 13 pairs – the national average. This was progress, but since I work at home, heels hurt my feet, and I really don’t care much about shoe fashion, I felt that certainly I could do better. I just reviewed my shoe wardrobe, but was only able to decrease it to 11 pairs. This doesn’t sound like much reduction but my rationale is that I bet the national average does not include boots and slippers. I’m counting everything!

Today, instead of showing what shoes I’m giving away, I decided to take a photo of which shoes I’m keeping and why. In studying my shoes I realized that 90% of the time I only wear 2 or 3 pair. The other shoes are for back-up or special occasions. Why not give away all those extras? Good question. My justification is that it would be a waste of time and money to go out and buy a fancy pair of shoes for the once or twice a year dressy event I might go to. Likewise, even though I only need snow boots several times a year, I want to have them around when it does snow.

  • 1st Row: Shoes I wear almost every day depending on season (cozy bedroom slippers, all purpose semi dressy sandals, all purpose summer walking sandals, all purpose winter comfortable shoes)
  • 2nd Row: Back-up shoes that I seldom wear, but use for special occasions (travel slippers, fancier flats, water socks for walking along rocky streams, back up casual  shoes that don’t look too dworky when worn with black slacks)
  • 3rd Row: Unique need shoes (extra fancy shoes with heels that are comfortable enough in case another child gets married or I get invited to the Oscars and need to have shoes that look dressy and I can also dance in; snow boots; semi-snow boots for looking professional during the winter)

So this is the best I can do for now. Do any of you, simple-lifestyle loving readers, have other solutions to taming the multiplication of shoes?

PS: Oh oh! I just realized that I have two pairs of shoes in my dance bag that I only use for contra dancing. I forgot about those when I took the photo and counted. But I really must have those and do wear them weekly. Hmm, maybe the Oscar shoes can go and I could wear socks instead of travel slippers.

Update (1 month later): I wore those “semi-snow boots” today for a walk and slipped twice. Jim said I should throw them out. “It’s not worth a sprained ankle or worse.” I have to admit he’s right. I took them off when I got home and planned to trash them. Now I just looked for them and they’re nowhere to be found. I think Jim threw them in the garbage lest I lose courage and decide to keep them. 😕

This is nothing.

(Make sure you read my PS at the end.) It’s the Christmas shopping season. Today I went into a store. Maybe it’s been too long. I was astounded by the prices for stuff I considered junk – clothes that didn’t look flattering or stylish, toys that were mostly modeled after cartoon characters or required batteries and played inane songs, electronics that would take way too much time to figure out the best deal. The problem is that I really want to buy a Christmas gift for each member of our immediate family, but I also don’t want to waste money on stuff that doesn’t deserve it. (Unfortunately, I don’t really enjoy cooking so that kind of gift won’t work.)

Several years ago our family did what we called a “Nothing New Christmas.” We agreed not to buy anything new for each other but rather to make things, buy stuff used, or provide a service. I was impressed with each person’s creativity and it was fun – for one year. We decided not to repeat it the next year, but now I’m afraid I’m feeling quite bah humbugish. Maybe it’s the Christmas over-hype. Maybe I’m tired of Christmas starting earlier. (It feels like it’s been going for almost as long as the recent election cycle.) I miss the quiet, waiting in the dark; the feeling of longing that goes with Advent. Maybe I’m just getting old. 🙁

Bottom line? I didn’t buy anything. Giving stuff away has made me more cognizant of what is really worth buying and having. It’s nice to have a few nice things, but having a lot of stuff no longer appeals to me. Perhaps if I still had young children at home it would be different. They need clothes as they grow and I don’t begrudge kids some toys and entertainment beyond banging on pots and making a fort in the woods or the living room. Still, the over consumerism of our society is starting to wear me down. Can’t we just get together, enjoy each other with some food, play a game, and sing. It used to be so much simpler.

Maybe I’m just in a bad mood. Maybe it will pass. Maybe some chocolate would help.

PS: After reading this post over, I started to realize that it was a downer and I needed to exercise my “Gratitude Offensive.” When I get into a funk or start complaining or being unduly judgmental I’ve been trying to train myself to STOP and notice all the good things that are happening in my life (or at least realize that it could be a lot worse.) So, I did a quick mental review of things I am grateful for today:

  1. At least I recognized that I slipped into being judgmental, had the good sense to try to turn it around.
  2. There’s a whole lot of people who are prompted at Christmas time to see how they can give to others. There are also people who still love me despite my complaining,
  3. I’m not sick plus we have health insurance.
  4. I have good friends  – one of whom invited us over for dinner tonight.
  5. I didn’t miss my plane the other day – even though the timing was tight.
  6. I still have some chocolate mousse in the fridge.

Yesterday, I sent out my periodic email Blog Alert to friends. I do this every 2 or 3 months so as not to pester people. (Not everyone checks my blog compulsively every day 😕 ) Since I’ve recently changed my email to a Gmail address, I decided to use Gmail for this bulk mailing for the first time. The problem was that I imported all 1,500 of my previous contacts from the past 10 years and didn’t prune them. Many were from my Marriage Moments and Parenting Pointers lists that I now manage through a separate account. Result? I received about 300 bounced addresses. Many of these are people I never personally knew but many were former colleagues in family ministry across the country. I decided that it was time to bite the bullet and at least delete the addresses that bounced.

It was a sobering experience. Each time I deleted a name of a person I knew, I wondered if they had moved, quit their job, retired, or maybe even died. I wondered if the married couples were still married. It was like going through an old scrap book and having a bitter/sweet experience of calling to mind people I had shared ministry with, wondering what had happened to them, but being happy to clean out defunct addresses. What happens to all those people we lose contact with through life? It’s impossible to keep close to everyone (According to Dunbar’s Number, human beings have enough mental space to keep track of only 150 meaningful relationships.) but still, people move and change. Hmmm.

 

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Jim informed me that I needed new jeans. He was right. A hole was starting in my “good” pair. No problem. I went to our trusty Gap Outlet where I knew I could get a pair cheap. I was on a tight schedule, however, so I quickly chose a pair of jeans missing the button. No problem. I have extra buttons and can easily sew one on. Since they were also a little long on me I asked the clerk if I could return them if needed. “No problem,” she said. “As long as it’s within 30 days.” Returned home and remembered my sewing machine was broken and I wasn’t sure when I would get around to having it fixed and shortening the jeans. No problem. I decided to buy another pair at a closer store and return the Gap jeans. This all fit within my “one in, one out” policy since I would trash my oldest pair with a really big hole, the aging jeans would become my gardening jeans, and I would return the Gap jeans, leaving me again with only two pairs of jeans. I knew I had 30 days. Being the organized person that I am, on day 28, I trek out to the Gap Outlet, receipt in hand, to return them and fulfill my “one in, one out” protocol.

Whoa! This clerk said they don’t take returns since it’s an outlet.

Need a new plan. I need to get rid of the third pair of jeans or else I have to fire myself from this blog. I could just give them to Goodwill, but being the conscientious person that I am, I decide to go ahead and sew a new button on anyway. Now I’m feeling pretty virtuous as I put the repaired jeans into my “give away pile.”

But wait…Is feeling virtuous a lack of humility; a sin of pride? Wow, sometimes we overthink these things. Better just to sew on the button, give the jeans away, and not tell anybody about it – except you all. 😕

PS: While I’m in confessional mode, I might as well admit that last summer I bought a black shrug that I wore once and decided it didn’t work. It’s in that same “give away pile.” Time to give away the give away pile.

To buy or not to buy – That is the question. The word “black” can be a source of pride or despair. In the Great Depression it meant the economy was in crisis. For the day after Thanksgiving it has come to mean the beginning of the Christmas shopping season when retailers move from red ink to black – meaning that they start to make a profit. The “Buy Nothing Day” movement was started to counteract the extreme consumerism of the day after Thanksgiving.

So, that’s the history. What does it mean for me? For us? There was a time in our family’s life when we were so bargain conscious that this day was seen as a great time to save money. One of our kids who was old enough to drive joined the frenzy of going to an electronics store early in the morning to get a deal on a new computer. This was partly the fun of the chase but also motivated by our very modest income.

  • My socially conscious side says that we need not strive to accumulate more than we need. After all, that’s what this blog is all about – letting go of stuff. Thus I am very sympathetic to the “Buy Nothing Day” idea – at least for one day as a symbolic stance. After all, isn’t Thanksgiving weekend one of the few respites we have from consumerism? We can focus on family, food, and football, not more stuff. (OK, “stuffing” is allowed in the name of tradition.) It’s a time to play games and talk about relatives, dead and alive.
  • But, my other socially conscious side says, “Hey, merchants have to make a living, people need jobs, and this is good for the economy. Besides, if it’s on sale, I can save money and (in the best of worlds) donate that saved money to a good cause.

Well, it’s complicated, isn’t it? Does your family struggle with dilemmas like this or are you just too turkey tired to get into the Black Friday rat race? As for me and mine, we’re at the stage of life that when the family gets together we play games – cards, Settlers of Catan, or “Who can tell the best embarrassing story about another family member.” Remember when…