Living Lightly

Susan Vogt on living more simply but abundantly

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Hanging shirts are sort of like “hanging chads.” How do you count them? I put each of these button down shirts on its own pretty plastic hanger so you could count them more easily in the photo. (I confess that I later switched the nice hangers to the clothes I’m keeping.) I only had 12 shirts though so my husband gallantly contributed two of his older shirts. I’m already anticipating a possible regret, however. I really liked a couple of the plaid flannel shirts. They were from our son’s high school days which means they would probably fit me. “No, No, Susan. Stay strong. You don’t need more flannel shirts even if you do like them!”

I just learned that our married son’s house was broken into. Two computers and other electronics were taken along with some jewelry. Having survived several burglaries when Jim and I were newly marrieds, I know how upsetting this can be. Even if you have insurance, it’s a hassle to replace things and some items are irreplaceable because of sentimental value.

After calming down from the shock and anger, I started to think about how much harder it is to have things stolen than to choose to give them away. It’s like losing something, but worse. Although my altruistic side admires the Bishop in Les Mis who accepts the burglar as a person in need and doesn’t press charges, still my practical side is angry and figures if it were me, I’d at least want to count the experience as equal to giving away a couple month’s stuff. Certainly the cost to my son would probably be more than all the things I’m giving away all year. Yes, our society is on hard economic times, but how should we respond to people who really need the basics of life? Who knows the circumstances of this particular robber, but it makes one think.

This week it’s the “T-shirts Without Words” turn. I didn’t quite have enough to double my numbers so I added a pair of my old bike shorts and a bandanna to bring it to 14 items. Now I’m starting to have room in the blue guest bedroom dresser for guests to store their clothes. I’m just a little worried, however, that son #3 or #4 will come home and say he didn’t really mean to give away “x” and could I retrieve it because it was his favorite and he was in a hurry and under duress when I forced him to choose things to give away. (“Is that Nintendo Rehab shirt from last week already gone, Mom?”)

Normally I might feel a little guilty about leaving good literature in doorways, but it’s campaign season and actually this is one thing I feel virtuous about. It’s not that I enjoy walking around all afternoon trying to find addresses and knocking on strangers’ doors, but I feel it is my duty. I have no right to complain about the electorate making ill-informed decisions, if I haven’t made an effort to educate them. It’s a thankless job, but I did have some interesting experiences.
One preteen told me his mother would vote for my candidate if I hugged him. Another stop was at a nursing home where some of my contacts were dead, some were asleep, and the rest could hardly hear. One fellow from Somalia said he had been a US citizen for ten years but the government still gave him no rights. Another intelligent elderly woman seemed genuinely interested in becoming informed but didn’t know who to believe. I steered her to public radio. The literature was free to me, so maybe I didn’t give away any of my stuff, but I did give away my time and opinions. I’ll deal with giving away heavier literature like books later in the year.

Our young adults were just home for a family vacation and I finally had an opportunity to get their OK to give away many of their clothes stored at our house. Since they obviously were not wearing them on a daily basis, I hit the jackpot in the category of “Kids Clothes Left at Home.” Most of the items were from our youngest son who lives in Singapore where it’s summer all year round. I collected enough to give one item away for almost three months. It didn’t quite seem fair to count it this way, however, since even though I bought most of the clothes, they weren’t mine. (Besides this would make for some pretty repetitive photos.) I decided to compromise and count two for one. Thus for the next six weeks I’m giving away two things a day. Even with this plan, however, there were too many T-shirts so I divided them into blank T-shirts and T-shirts with words. This week you see the shirts with words. My favorite is the red “Nintendo Rehabilitation Clinic.” It’s also worth noting the one with Korean lettering. Anybody able to translate it?

During Spring planting season, I had already anticipated the title for this September entry. It was going to be “Do Zucchini Count?” I planted about 10 squash – mostly zucchini. Knowing the reputation of how prolific zucchini are, I was sure I would have so many to give away by this time of year, my biggest problem would be finding receivers and knowing whether to count a bunch of five as one “give away.”
Well, Mother Nature has not been kind to my garden this summer – especially the squash. My first planting bloomed beautifully then mysteriously shriveled up and died. Not to worry. I had time to plant more and I did. I even found new places in the yard to plant a few from seed thinking perhaps the soil had been contaminated. Again, they bloomed beautifully, but no squash, EXCEPT for this one hardy fellow. It was in the worst place, shaded, and far from the hose for watering. It’s a butternut squash which I’m not particularly fond of, but I do admire its spunk. We got a few tomatoes, beans, and peppers, but not really enough to give away. My zinnias are doing great, however, so I gave several bunches of them away. They would make a prettier picture, but this squash has earned its photo.

I don’t know which is worse – a pacifist family playing Paintball or buying clothes for one time use. Before you judge me too harshly, here’s what happened. Our family was on our first family vacation with young adults plus spouse, grandchild, and girlfriend. Everyone got to choose one activity they’d really like to do in the hills of Kentucky. As a lark, one chose Paintball, daring the rest of us to join her. Several protested that they didn’t bring clothes that they could afford to mess up or suitable shoes (Those living outside the USA had primarily packed for two weddings.) “No problem!” the Paintball aficionado proclaimed, “I see a Thrift Shop. We can just pick up gaudy, cheap stuff there, wear it once, and then get rid of it.”
Well, it was a vacation, and she was persistent, so we did it. Although we looked pretty hard core, I have to admit, it was fun and no one got seriously hurt – just a few stings. Although it doesn’t seem quite right to buy stuff that we thought was ugly and we’d never wear again, then wash it and give it away, still it’s a family story that I’m sure will be retold for many years. I’m happy to give away the clothes. The memories, I’ll keep.
PS: Note the “Peacekeepers Now” printing on the blue cap. 😕

…a smell. While I was perusing the garage for things I could give away I couldn’t help noticing a foul odor. At first I thought it was an old bag of ammonium nitrate fertilizer. We hadn’t used it in years but I was afraid to put it in the garbage since it might be classified as a hazardous material. Now that’s a problem because it took me an hour of googling and several phone calls to our garbage company to verify that it was safe to throw away. Unfortunately, the smell remained so I searched for other sources.

Maybe it’s all that kitty litter that I had saved to stabilize the luminaria candles? Hmmm, that made sense since we have some stray cats in the neighborhood and maybe they found a new place to pee. Got rid of the kitty litter, the candles, and the luminaria bags – just in case. A few days later I still noticed “the stink.” No skunks around that I know of, but lots of other old debris in the garage. Maybe the cats, being deprived of their handy kitty litter, decided to pee in the five planters of dirt I had stored in the garage. So, I emptied the dirt into a shallow part of our yard. The stink continued. I finally scraped off the old hornet nests, climbed up to check the rafters for dead animals, swept the floor, and cleared out more dirt and debris. Nothing was left that a cat could possibly care to sit on. I also found an old can of spray that repels cats and dogs from the garden and sprayed everything. This whole process took a couple days and I have no photo to show for it! Everything was thrown away and too ugly to photograph.

I had, however, stored an old Atari set (which originally belonged to our now 36 year old son) in the garage. He agreed I could give it away since it may no longer work anyway. Well, at least I have a photo. Does anybody want an Atari set? I believe he played Pong on it. 😕

PS: The Atari is going, but not the smell.

Our unattached garage serves an important function. It is the last step before things rot on their own or get put out for the garbage. I can decide to probably give something away, but not finalize the decision since it might be retrievable if it’s in the garage – that is if the neighborhood cats haven’t peed on it or critters from the holler behind our house haven’t destroyed it. I did find a few items worthy of giving away (a lamp, a bike machine motor, bacon grill that doesn’t fit our microwave, and a mailbox) plus I found some things that went straight from garage to garbage (rotting yellow model train boards and a rusty snow shovel). My questions for the future are:

  • How many old flower pots should one save for replanting?
  • How much lumber might we really use for repair jobs?
  • How many old campaign signs does my husband need since this is his last term on the School Board?
  • And the clincher:  Will we ever use the supplies for 50 Christmas luminaria? – Our driveway isn’t that long!

As I focus on giving my extra stuff away, it seems like others keep giving to me. At first I felt frustrated, like the giving was going in the wrong direction. Then, I decided that receiving and being grateful was also a gift. In a sense, when I give, I am in control. It’s good to be on the other end occasionally and humbly accept the gifts of others.

At a recent conference someone just gave (not lent) me a red pen when I mentioned that I forgot to bring mine. Another person gave me her scarf when she noticed I was cold in an air-conditioned room – and insisted that I keep it. I had some extra time to read so I went to the Chaminade University library to check out a couple books. Since I wasn’t a student or local resident the head librarian said, “Hey, just put it on my card. I know you’re trustworthy.” I also needed a pleasant room for a post conference retreat I was responsible for. One local participant arranged for my group to use the President’s Lounge for a day – free. Another person saw me eyeing a couple books for a class that she teaches. I also teach a similar class on leadership. She said, “Just take them. I’ve got extras.” That’s 7 items that people gave me in one week. I’ll have to step up my giving.

Can returning stuff count? Yes! Some times it takes more effort to return stuff to its rightful owner than to just give a bunch of stuff away. Returning several library books was easy because there’s a time limit and the library is on my way to many places. Returning the car seat we had borrowed for our homeless family’s child was easy because it was from our next door neighbor. It was more difficult, however, to get a pillow and sheets back to an out of town guest who had stayed with us. Then there were a pair a reading glasses and water bottle that we don’t know who they belong to. We’ve put out several e-mails and still can’t find the owners. There are also the 20 plastic table cloths that I carefully wipe clean and save from year to year so our dance community doesn’t have to buy new ones each New Years Eve. This has the added advantage of making me feel quite virtuously green. Returning them to use every year can be a hassle, but I think reusing stuff should definitely count as would any recycling effort.

Speaking of souvenirs, I recently returned from a conference with a number of international participants. It never ceases to amaze me how generous other people are – especially people from other countries. In addition to sharing their talents of singing, dancing, and laughter, the Koreans and Hawaiians showered us with little gifts. Of course there is the Hawaiian custom of honoring visitors with a lei and Jim and I each received a beautiful hand made yarn lei that will last more than a day. The Koreans also gave us fans, decorative candles, key chains, and beautiful bookmarks and little purses. I really do need to learn from their generosity.
There is a problem, however. As gracious as these gifts are, I can’t use them all. I think I’ve found a solution. I’ve put many of these colorful gifts into a basket and when visitors come to our home – especially young children – I invite them to choose something from the basket. It’s a way of passing on the gift and culture of other generous people.

Giving away trinkets is one thing, but what about when trinkets are mementos of a foreign trip and you’ll probably never go to that country again? That is the question I asked myself when I stared at these Pepsi bottles. About 20 years ago our family was part of a month long family exchange program in the Soviet Union. We thought it was cool to bring home Pepsi bottles written with the Cyrillic alphabet. I saved two but what do I do with them now? They’re not quite display items, yet I don’t want to drink them. (I’m not sure of the shelf life of pop in bottles.) Hmmm. I wonder if it would be worth money on E-Bay? Whoops, that wouldn’t be giving it away. Now that I have a photo of it maybe that’ll do. Since I’m on the souvenir theme, this week I’m also clearing out some other minor souvenirs from Russia, Korea, Japan, and Africa.

Should I count by one’s or seven’s. Technically I’ve only committed to giving one thing away a day, but sometimes things come in groups and it just doesn’t seem honest to count lettuce by the leaf or to count each zucchini for a day. Since last Sunday I chose 7 of our son’s sweaters to give away when he was also ready to let go of other winter garb, I’m making up for it by including some additional jerseys, shirts, socks, and pajamas that he said, “What the heck!” when asked about them too. There are at least 7 more items here.

Although #3 child balked at me giving away anything in his trunk of childhood mementos, he was surprisingly cooperative about letting me give away a number of his sweaters stored at our house. It could be that these were mostly clothes I had bought him, or which had been handed down to him, that he wasn’t all that keen on anyway. Or maybe it’s just that the temperature has been hovering between 90-95 degrees and it’s hard to think about needing sweaters. (I guess if he had really loved them, he would have taken them with him to his apartment.) Anyway, this week I easily collected over 7 sweaters to give away.

As a writer, I spend most of the day, most days, at my computer. Over the years, several of the more common letters have rubbed off (like the E, R, and T). I only realized this when other people tried to use my computer and weren’t sure where these letters were. I started to feel like Vanna White with hidden letters and was tempted to say, “Would you like to buy a vowel?” I guess technically I didn’t give the letters away, but indeed I no longer had them except in the muscle memory of my fingers. I know that in the scope of societal needs this is a frivolous post but sometimes we just have to let go and laugh at ourselves.

Speaking of letters, though, I am aware of the power of the handwritten word. A friend of mine has cancer, does not do e-mail, and wearies of talking on the phone about her illness. Another friend suggested a snail mail letter. What a concept! It takes a little longer and costs 44 cents – at least this year – but sometimes letters are important.

I’ve been avoiding books till I summon up the courage to make some hard decisions. The Encyclopedia Britannica set was an exception. Not only was it published in 1961 but it was missing the “C” volume – probably used as a booster seat years ago. Who uses hard copies of encyclopedia anymore? I called the library for advice – one of the excellent free services of our society. They of course could not use such a dinosaur but they suggested that I donate it to their Friends of the Library sale. No, most bibliophiles would not buy an old encyclopedia either, BUT, they said that some realtors buy such books to use as display pieces in condos or model homes. Some developing countries may be able to use the books also, but shipping them would be expensive. I was happy to have a better use for these volumes than recycled paper.

Airlines have lost enough of my luggage over the years that I’ve learned to pack with just a carry-on and a large purse. (Although I’ve always eventually gotten my stuff back, I once went almost two weeks without my suitcase in a 3rd world country.) Last week Jim and I were returning from a working vacation in Hawaii. Of course Hawaii is known for being relaxed and leisurely and so was the local airline we took between islands. Generally this is a welcome change of pace, but I started to wonder when the ticket taker at the gate didn’t seem concerned that my carry-on for the small plane might not fit in the overhead. Normally they tag it at the gate and I leave it at the end of the sky bridge. Well, no tag and no directions. Jim calmly left his carry-on at the usual place and so did I – but not so calmly. I started worrying about whether anyone would actually put it on the plane without a bright tag. While in flight my worry barometer started escalating and I began taking stock of the things in my suitcase that I would miss if the luggage was lost – permanently.

First, you have to know that I take great pride in my ability to pack small. It’s taken me years to perfect this talent as I’ve accumulated many miniature travel items and trimmed my trip necessities to the bare minimum. Normally I can go anywhere in the world for one week or several months without checking luggage – as long as it’s not cold weather. Yes, I admit, it’s become a compulsion.

So, when I calculated what I’d miss if (when) my luggage was lost on this trip, clothes were the least of my worries. My miniature containers, comfortable but non-bulky shoes, and special light and thin travel wardrobe would take years to find equivalent replacements. I decided that giving things away is much easier than losing things. I choose what I give away, but have no control over things I lose and may never find again. Miraculously, my luggage was at my destination; thank God and prayer.

PS: While I’m on the topic of losing, I noticed that only losing things that are not easily replaceable bother me. I can lose my glasses or lose at cards without losing sleep (and even losing sleep through time changes doesn’t bother me much). Now, losing time – that’s another matter. What bothers you?

As I said in my “Extra blog” a couple days ago, it’s often more challenging to let go of compulsions than to let go of stuff. Just to keep me honest, however, I also gave away some stuff: a 1993 LSAT prep guide (Nobody looks like they’re going to law school soon.), 2 suit cases, an animal skin rug that’s shedding, a Creepy Crawler Kit, a sketch pad, plus 3 more pretty, but useless, rocks found while hiking probably 20 years ago.

carI recently took a trip and rented a car. Now I don’t fancy myself a picky person but I found myself a little annoyed when I discovered it didn’t have cruise control and this was a six hour drive. I then realized that I had forgotten my CD’s (to keep me awake) and conditioner for my hair (to keep away the frizzies). These are small things but I found myself stewing about them. I started to think of other trifles and compulsions that rule me more than is warranted. For example, I can be an efficiency freak, multitasking to the point that the task becomes more important than the person in front of me. I also have a thing about “packing small.” I will go to great lengths to avoid checking luggage. These can be fun, and sometimes money saving quirks, but they can also strain relations with those around me who tire of my idiosyncrasies. This is the spiritual side of letting go. It’s often more challenging to let go of compulsions than to let go of stuff.